The Life & Times of Lisa

I'll be there

2009-07-21T14:52:00.007-04:00

When you're down and troubled
And you need some loving care
And nothing, nothing is going right
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon I will be there
To brighten up even your darkest night

You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there
You've got a friend

If the sky above you
Grows dark and full of clouds
And that old north wind begins to blow
Keep your head together
And call my name out loud
Soon you'll hear me knocking at your door

You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running to see you
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there
~ Carole King

Yet, I often wonder... why can I no longer sense you? Distance and time have not altered something I still treasure... you!

True Colors

2009-06-30T10:13:00.003-04:00

I'm not afraid of confrontation, although I don't go seeking it. I have never been timid to share my opinions or feelings. This may get me in trouble at times, but I believe that you should go through life showing your true colors, rather than being disingenuous.

On Sunday I was approached by a man who, around this small town, is known as a brash loud mouth. He is very involved in local sports and coaches hockey & baseball. Although he does a good job at this, many have been turned-off by his gruff demeanor. He can be overbearing and offensive.

He never addresses me by name, because I don't think he's taken the interest in knowing it. So he comes up to me and starts off by saying " I hear you've been running your trap about me at (the store) so if you have anything to say about me, say it to my face because my friend just about had you fired."

Ooooooh I'm scared, buddy. If I said anything about you it's that your coaching style makes those opposing you feel very small, very browbeaten and very sorry that we have to listen to you alienate the kids & coaches on the other team. There's a right way to motivate your team.

By the way, you must think it's okay for YOU to give ME attitude about your strike zone as an ump. How about the time you deliberately pulled up in your car to berate me when I was simply watching my son practice? Because you do this to my face with your bitter sarcasm, you feel you're justified because your cards are laid out on the table?

Think again. I will not be intimidated by you and will continue to call a spade a spade.

Step One: Staying Busy

2009-06-23T23:24:00.006-04:00

As of Sunday, we started getting outside for some more fun & exploration. All of us went for a bike ride Sunday night, then on Monday I took the boys to Burlington to go for a hike. We also stopped by the beach where they frolicked in the water while I roamed the shoreline.

The summer plan is to ensure that we all stay active and off the couch. I put a daily agenda together for the boys, which includes reading after breakfast, then sending them outside to play while I get some chores done around the house. So far things have worked perfectly, but I'm probably going to go broke before too long. If we all benefit in the long run, it'll be worth it though.

Today I signed Birdie up at the gym for the Kids Summer Plyometrics & Weight Training Program. [Plyometrics is a type of strength training designed to produce fast, powerful movements, and improve the overall performance in a specific sport.] His doctor recommended that he drop about 20 pounds, especially if he wants to play football, so this was the inspiration. He'll also get better results for the other sports he plays, like baseball, soccer & skiing.

I tried to encourage him to do a summer weight loss challenge with me, but we couldn't agree on a tangible reward system. So I had to go in a different direction. He's excited about going to the gym and has agreed to make a commitment of 4 days/week in the program. I hoped to join alongside of him, but their free daycare isn't available during that time slot. So Nut & I will probably ride the bike path while Birdie does his thing.

Meanwhile, Friday we're going to sign up for the Summer Bowling Program, which the boys love. Plus it's cheap. Next week I've got more hiking & biking trips planned at Smuggs and around town.

So many adventures out there waiting for us to uncover... I just hope the weather cooperates!

A Tiny Spark of Inspiration

2009-06-22T01:23:00.004-04:00

Sometime I look out and see nothing but the fog. Gray, dense & overwhelming. Other times there's a burst of color that explodes in my mind when I'm inspired. Like any good swift kick, all it takes to start the ball rolling is an "ah ha" moment.

As I said in my last post, I've been tinkering on Facebook. I've found some old friends from way back and it feels fabulous to rekindle these connections. There are many others who I have yet to find, but I'm sure that when the time is right, we'll come together.

Meanwhile, I've been doing some thinking lately about where I want to go, and how I want to lead my life. Now that I've got a 6th grader (a.k.a. "tween") in the house, I really have to buckle down and start dredging up some super-positive habits. I need to start changing things about me, or at least modifying things.

Hmmm... where do I start?

My self is the first thing on my makeover list. Got to start dusting off the fitness DVDs and sprucing up my eating habits. Now that it's summer (although you'd never guess it's summer if you live in VT where the sunshine has been nearly non-existent) I'm going to start enjoying the great outdoors with the boys; hiking, biking, swimming, walking, rollerblading, and exploring the sights. I'm even thinking about doing plyometrics at the gym with Birdie and taking a Zumba class.

My job is the next thing that I need to change. I really need to find something new, maybe inside a school or hospital so I can really make a difference. Meanwhile, I have to garner more knowledge in order to expand my horizons. I want to talk to an advisor at the community college and get a direction, although I'm leaning a bit toward health care.

Baby steps to a brighter future.

I'll need an angel to guide me and a drill sergeant to keep me in check. Any volunteers?

Summertime = vacationtime

2009-06-19T10:18:00.005-04:00

Lately life has been flying by, mostly because we are all so devoted to baseball. Both of the boys played Little League and Hubby coached both teams. I sat on the bleachers, often between two different fields watching two different games. Then when they weren't both playing at Rotary Field, one of us was racing to another town for a game.

This year Birdie played 17 game while Nut played 14 (2 rainouts). Ironically of those 14 games, there were 10 conflicts with Birdie. A very hectic season indeed. But it hasn't ended yet, Birdie made the All Star team and has been practicing nearly every day. So that's why I haven't taken the time to be here...

I do love to write, but as I said in a recent post, the boys have been harassing me about how much time I spend online. You might think that I have earned my time away from the motherly grind, but I'm tired of listening to them kvetch. Maybe what they're really saying is "Mom we need you"...

I've had my nose in a few books between working and dabbling a bit on Facebook so that's why I haven't been journaling much here. Plus things at work have been very stressful. I'm thinking of taking some classes in the Fall; maybe taking some accounting or medical courses to further my employment horizons.

Meanwhile, I'm taking the time this summer to spend some quality time with the boys and take some much needed time off. TTFN

Little League

2009-05-30T18:21:00.001-04:00

Determination, strong work ethics, perseverance... just 3 of several standards of Little League.

Then there's the other side of the coin.

3 Beautiful Things

2009-05-26T00:02:00.001-04:00

My gratitude journal for May 18 - 24, 2009:

1. enjoying a gorgeous long weekend with lots of time off
2. seeing the magnificent oriole (plus hearing him sing)
3. finding a beautiful spot by the falls to read while my men fished

Life is good when you can get outside and enjoy the beauty of this fine planet.

Let the Music Play

2009-05-25T12:45:00.001-04:00

Every now & then I think about it. The hair on the back of my neck feels prickly and the goose bumps on my arms swell. I shiver, mostly in fear, thinking about the inevitable I will face someday. Yet at the same time I think about how liberating it will be when I get there. I mean, when I, myself, go.

I just want to go first, not after them. Like my sister.

For many parents, it's our greatest fear; outliving our children. And for me it became a reality I witnessed with ironic torment. I had just barely given birth to my first child when my sister's first child was taken.

To this day, I am still rattled by the cruelty of this vicious cycle. There are days that the reality floods over me like a tidal wave, knocking me down, sucking out my breath, choking me as I swallow the filthy water of his death.

I miss him and wonder, especially as I spend time with his siblings, what he'd be doing with his life today had the chord not been cut.

Like a crescendo, his music stopped. The song remains the same, but the melody is different ~ more melancholy.

Our world changed forever. And no matter how many years pass, our ears will always ring with the sound of his silence.

Now, as I lay quietly next to them in their restful slumber, listening to the rhythm of their gently breathing, I pray that my sons will be bound for a long, productive journey, with me & Hubby watching in the wings, until the day our music stops.

Happy Memorial Day

3 Beautiful Things 59/365

2009-05-17T20:03:00.005-04:00

My gratitude journal for May 10-16, 2009:

1. baseball victories for both Nut & Birdie
2. the many fruit trees in bloom throughout the yard
3. quality time with family, especially Jason

Life is good when you've got so much to be grateful for...

Graduation Day

2009-05-17T10:49:00.003-04:00

Yesterday was little Lex's graduation day. From college.

I swear it was just yesterday that my sister told me she was pregnant with her baby girl. Then again wasn't it just recently when we all sat in the audience to watch her baby's dance recital? And was it really 4 years ago that our baby girl put on her cap & gown for her high school graduation?

Now our baby girl is finished with school and ready to face the real world with her degree in business management.

Lexie Lu, the spitting image of her mother, has captivated us all. So it's not surprising that so many of us were there to celebrate her commencement.

I was glad that the rain came down with such vengeance, thereby postponing Birdie's game, so we could get an earlier start on the 2 hour ride to the party. We had all come from many miles away to be there for Lex; my mother from Florida, my father from Pennsylvania, my nephew from Oregon, my "twin" & me from northern VT. The only ones missing were our 3 brothers, who all live too far to join us.

What a wonderful day we had, being together and catching up with one another. None of us had seen Jason since 2005, so it was a wonderful surprise to have him there. In fact, my boys hardly remembered him. They were 6 & 4 back then.

It struck me funny to see my boys with their maternal cousins, who all except one are young adults ranging from 21 - 27 years old. Funny because all of us sisters had our children so far apart, despite only being 4 years apart ourselves. My oldest sister had her first child in 1977 and I had my first child 21 years later.

Yet the bonds of family are not tainted with distance or time. The boys love their aunts & cousins despite the lack of an everyday connection with them. I especially enjoyed Graduation Day. There truly is nothing better than spending time with the people you love.

Everyday Battles

2009-05-16T07:01:00.003-04:00

Last night I watched Farrah's Story on NBC and went to bed very melancholy. It really opened my eyes to how much I take my health for granted. And the health of my family as well.

Cancer is so evil, so sly, so potent.

I was humbled by how well Farrah is dealing with all of this, while witnessing the downward spiral of her son, Redmond, whom she adores. Her spirit is strong despite her weakening body. She remains positive & optimistic, hopeful that her tenacity will outlast her cancer.

I was also struck by how much medication Farrah has to take to fight this vicious disease. The fact that she has travelled to Germany several times for highly specialized treatment not performed in the US was also very enlightening.

There are days that I walk through my life in a haze, commiserating about the small stuff that worries me. Now, after watching Farrah's battle with Cancer, I have a new found respect for the life God has given me.

Still proudly wearing the Black & Gold

2009-05-15T14:02:00.004-04:00

Last night was a real bummer. I was so hoping that the Boston Bruins would pull off a win, after being down in the series 3-1 versus the Carolina Hurricanes. But with 1:14 left in overtime, the Hurricanes' resident goon scored a tip-in goal for the victory. Uuuuuuuugh!

I had a hard time falling asleep, partly because I was disappointed, partly because I knew the boys would be bummed when they watched the highlights on NESN, and partly because my asinine BIL had to call (at 11:25pm) to rub my face in it. (I had the last laugh though, since the Bruins played 7 more games and finished with a respectable record compared to his beloved Canadiens. Haaa!)

Although I've never played competitive sports, I've become very passionate when routing for my teams, especially when the boys are part of them. Yet ever since I met several of the Bruins' players at training camp, I have fallen in love with hockey. I still cannot always follow the puck as it whizzes across the ice, but I can sense when something is abreast or afoul. And last night I knew that puck was going in.

Alas, in all sports, there is always one winner & one loser. Life hasn't been irevocably changed. I have learned that it's not worth losing sleep over... It's just a game!

The greatest accomplishment is not in never falling,

but in rising again after you fall.

~~Vince Lombardi

The Metamorphosis of Our Gang

2009-05-11T09:05:00.011-04:00

My parents were busy bees in way back in the late 50's & 60's because they were chasing around 6 children. As I've said before, I was the youngest of the brood; 3 boys & 3 girls. We were all about a year apart, born between November 1956 & December 1962.

I cannot imagine what it was like for my mother to have all of those cloth diapers to change and wash. I say my mother because I'm pretty sure that my dad didn't help too much with the children, other than discipline & a little playtime. I will give him credit for being a good provider, though, because I do not recall ever wanting for much.

Anyways, as I was growing up I remember feeling like I could lean on my oldest sister for anything. She was always so mature... so ready willing & able to face anything head on. I came to rely on her instead of my mother in some ways, probably because Mom seemed so harried with managing the mounds of laundry, the endless chores & everything else mothers do.

The fun I had was with my youngest brother, who was a couple years older than me. We were usually sent outside to fend for ourselves for the day so we'd head to the backwoods for some wild adventures. I was afraid to go far from the house, but when we were together he somehow managed to venture off in the deep, always finding something new to explore around every bend, with me trailing just a feet feet behind.

Many of the memories of my childhood stem from being with my "twin", though. My sister, Lauren, was only 15 months older than me yet, for the longest time, Mom dressed us alike. We'd wear the same sundresses, the same sandals, the same everything... just different colors. She was a beautiful little chocolate haired cherub of a girl with bright blue eyes and I was the towheaded pixie.

We were always close and today we only live about 30 minutes from each other. Nevertheless we have busy lives that rarely bring us together. My other sister & I don't talk much, and our relationship grew cool over the years. My brothers all live in different states and none keeps in touch.

I admit that I hate the holidays. I see families all around me giddy with the excitement of being together, reminiscing about the good times and the antics of growing up with a big family. This, unfortunately, is something I've never experienced. So when I hear my boys bickering and wishing they were an only child, my heart aches.

As another Mother's Day passes, I realize how sapless most holidays are in our house. So it is my hope that, going forward, we invest more time to celebrate, not just the occasion, but the love & camaraderie of a real family.

The best job I've ever had

2009-05-10T04:54:00.001-04:00

I originally posted this on MySpace, so now I'll repeat it here.

You will find as you look back upon your life, that the moments when you have really lived, are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love.
~ Henry Drummond

I firmly believe down deep in my heart that the first time I ever felt the true meaning of unconditional love was the moment I gave birth to my first baby.

When I was pregnant with my second child, I wondered how I could EVER love this next child as much as the first. I cried many tears before my little guy came into my world because I didn't want the magic that I had with baby number one to end or become clouded.

But the love for each child is very unique; there are no favorites, just differences in how the love is connected and expressed.

More than a decade later, that love has deepened and intensified by the day. There are times that I don't like my children's behavior, but the love and respect I have for them will never diminish. It's etched deep in my soul.

What I know for sure is that I would give my life to spare my child any pain or grief. Being a mother is the most rewarding, and heart wrenching, relationship I have ever experienced. And the best job I've ever had!

The only thing I imagine that will exceed my love for my sons is the love I will have for my grandchildren. I am so looking forward to the day when my children experience their own unconditional love as a parent.

I hope that I'll live long enough to love my great-grandchildren, too! Meanwhile... I thank God for giving me the privilege of motherhood.

And to those who don't yet have children, I never believed the testimony of mothers who were smitten by their kids, but believe me now when I say… the best is yet to come.

3 Beautiful Things 58/365

2009-05-09T20:43:00.004-04:00

My gratitude journal for May 3 - May 9, 2009:

1. only needing to get up extra early once this week
2. finding the book I thought I lost
3. finishing the book before my 1st club mtg

Life is good when you don't feel stressed.

It wasn't meant to be a trick question

2009-05-07T21:35:00.005-04:00

I've always believed that if you want answers, you have to ask direct questions. So I did. And she didn't respond.

I'm frustrated by the imbalance between being a full-time mother and being a part-time peon. They've known for eight years that I will never compromise my family's needs and it was never an issue.

But, all of a sudden, something has changed. Of course, it's the corporate office's fault. Corporate Office = highly-paid-know-it-all-bean-counting-fat-cat-hot-shots.

If I didn't need to work, I'd tell them where they can shove their "corporate" excuses then never look back. But, in this dismal economy, with everyone around me losing their jobs left & right, I know I need to suck it up for now, work the crappy shifts I get, & pretend it doesn't bother me.

What effing annoys me about the whole thing is that we had a similar conversation less than 8 weeks ago. Everything was hunky dory then. We were on the same page. She understood what & why my priorities are because "when [her] kids were young, [she] made motherhood a top priority, too."

Fast forward to the last 3 weeks, when the schedules were posted and the prime shifts (that used to have my name on them) were given to the new cashiers, one that has been there only 2 weeks!

Did I mention I've been there 8 years? Evidently, seniority counts for absolutely nothing. I suppose Corporate wrote that bullcrap policy, too.

So I've got a new strategy. As of tomorrow, I will only be able to work my required 20 hours over three days thereby satisfying the policy regarding my benefit classification. Period. No more. No less.

And if that doesn't work, maybe I need to have a little conversation with the District Manager the next time we meet at the ballpark and get HER take on this.

Meanwhile I'll remind myself of this philosophy :

Determination gives you the resolve to keep going

in spite of the roadblocks that lay before you.

~Denis Waitley

3BT Things 57/365

2009-05-04T22:11:00.004-04:00

My gratitude journal for time period 4/26 - 5/2/2009:

1. nice weather for Little League opening day
2. recognition for both boys re: their hard work on the fundraiser
3. one fantastic victory and one close game with signs of promise

Life is good when everyone leaves the ballpark happy.

Out there

2009-05-03T19:02:00.008-04:00

There's always someone out there ready to knock you off balance... like the people you consider friendly acquaintances who obviously turn up their nose as you walk by or turn their head to avoid eye contact.

The other day I was chatting with a couple of friends about how awkward it can be to stroll through life, especially in a small town with all of it's ugly politics. You can find yourself befuddled by the measurement of your designated status.

Who dictates this kind of hierarchy? And what makes these people think that others don't notice their pretension?

Like the mom who drove her 2nd grader to school in their Porsche... or the 4th grader who went around school threatening to peg baseballs at his younger rivals... or the crowd who goes suddenly silent as you enter the room.

All I want to do is go to work to earn a few bucks, go to the game to watch my boys play and go about my day to somehow make a small difference.

I do not live my life proclaiming my value based on the car I drive, the clothes I wear, the money I make, or the people in my social circle.

And those who think otherwise have not taken the time to truly get to know me.

It's not a secret... it's just mine! For now.

2009-04-29T05:03:00.001-04:00

Lately the kids have been riding me about how much time I spend on the computer. What annoys me about it is that they say it in front of Hubby, which makes it sound like I'm ignoring my duties as Domestic Goddess.

I'm no Cinderella or Suzie Homemaker for that matter, but my house is not a pigsty. On the other hand it's not immaculate either. Nobody will ever mistake me for the Queen of Clean. So I ask you... IF

they get to school on time, with everything they need
then I get to work on time, most days with everything I need
they get to every practice & game on time, with everything
they go on vacation, Bruins games, the movies, date night, etc.

Before or After

I've worked a 5-7 hours shift, standing for nearly 80% of it
I've sat in the rain or freezing cold to watch every game/practice
the laundry is done
the meals are prepared
the fridge & pantry are stocked
the floor is swept
the rugs are vacuumed
the bathrooms are scrubbed
the homework is done
the daily grind is over
and everyone go to bed in a comfortable, happy home

then why the eff are they griping?

I think of myself as someone who loves to connect with others who share my life, someone who would give the shirt off her back to those in need, someone who enjoys being creative, someone who is making a difference, and someone who deserves "me time".

That's why I spend so much time here. Writing, for me, is intensely therapeutic, extremely liberating, and very enjoyable. I hope my sons will find this same joy and passion for writing as I do.

One of the reasons I created this blog, as well as my gratitude journal, is because it helps me appreciate the reason I've been given this life. It keeps me grounded by reminding me just how good I've got it.

I cannot wait until the boys are able to savor the words I have written here for them. I hope that they, too, will leave a similar legacy to their children someday.

So, boys, until I'm ready to share this sacred place with you & Daddy, I'll keep it a secret. This is my retreat and I'll spend as much time here as I need.

Consider it a Mother's Day present... to myself.

The Rules of Summer

2009-04-28T16:12:00.008-04:00

Alright Ladies, it's that time again! I think we all need to be reminded of a few things. So my sisters, raise your big toe and repeat these words below:

The Open Toed Shoe Pledge

As a member of the Cute Girl Sisterhood, I pledge to follow these rules when wearing sandals & open-toed shoes:

I promise to always wear sandals that fit. My toes will not hang over and touch the ground, nor will my heels spill over the backs. And the sides and tops of my feet will not pudge out between the straps.

I will go polish-free or vow to keep the polish fresh, intact and chip-free. I will not cheat and just touch up my big toe.

I will sand down any mounds of skin before they turn hard and yellow.

I will wax the hairs off my toes and the tops of my feet.

I won't wear pantyhose even if my misinformed girlfriend, coworker, mother, or sister tells me the toe seam really will stay under my toes if I tuck it there.

If a strap breaks, I won't duct-tape, pin, glue or tuck it back into place hoping it will stay put. I will get my shoe fixed or toss it.

I will not live in corn denial; rather I will lean on my good friend Dr. Scholl if my feet need him.

I will resist the urge to buy jelly shoes at Payless for the low, low price of $4.99 even if my feet are small enough to fit into the kids' sizes. This is out of concern for my safety, and the safety of others. No one can walk properly when standing in a pool of sweat and I would hate to take someone down with me as I fall and break my ankle.

I will take my toe ring off toward the end of the day if my toes swell and begin to look like Vienna sausages.

I will be brutally honest with my girlfriend/sister/coworker when she asks me if her feet are too ugly to wear sandals. Someone has to tell her that her toes are as long as my fingers and no sandal makes creepy feet look good.

I will promise if I wear flip flops that I will ensure that they actually flip and flop, making the correct noise while walking and I will swear NOT to slide or drag my feet while wearing them.

Now, quick... pass it on!

3 Beautiful Things 56/365

2009-04-28T15:34:00.003-04:00

My gratitude journal for Tuesday April 28, 2009:

1. success at the scrimmage
2. Birdie's 3 straight outs on the mound
3. great teamwork

Life is good when everyone plays well.

Are you there God? It's me, Lisa. Chapter 2

2009-04-26T21:37:00.000-04:00

Hi there,
If you can hear me, I need your help again. I can feel the pot starting to simmer and I don't want any of us to get burned. So I hope you'll help guide us away from the ugly vibe I can sense. In other words, make sure that we don't let ourselves boil over the edge.

Sometimes we can all take it too seriously and get caught up in the excitement, forgetting the what matters most. I know we're not the only ones, but it can be so frustrating and all of us end up feeling miserable.

We remember our own parents telling us that life isn't always fun or fair. Now, today, we find ourselves delivering this same "reality check" speech. Yet somehow our message fails to ease the disappointment and can actually fan the flames of self-pity.

Dreams, especially those of children, can often outweigh the scale of reality. But without the dream, many of us would never venture outside our comfort zone. Failure, even by the smallest of margins, must not diminish the glory of the effort.

The lesson we want the boys to learn is that most of us fail before we succeed, and all of us have felt disappointment along the way. Yet it is how one faces defeat that is the true measure of character.

So please, God, whisper in our ear (or shout if we don't hear you the first couple times) how to effectively teach our sons the value of grace & dignity, and how we can soothe the inevitable wounds of despair.

3 Beautiful Things 55/365

2009-04-25T20:09:00.004-04:00

My Gratitude Journal for Saturday April 25, 2009:

1. spending time with my "twin" sister *

2. making friends with Harley **

3. sharing leftovers with Gingie Girl ***

Life is good when we spend time with Auntie & her furry family.

* this sister is only 17 months older than me

** my nephew's 1 year old pit bull

*** "twin's" 12 year old golden retriever

3 Beautiful Things 54/365

2009-04-24T20:43:00.003-04:00

My gratitude journal for Friday April 24, 2009:

1. today's weather: high 70's & sunny... unbelievable
2. wearing sandals in April... without socks
3. reading outside in the adirondack chair

Life is good when it's near 80 here in April, instead of 30.

3 Beautiful Things 53/365

2009-04-23T19:12:00.003-04:00

My gratitude journal for Thursday April 23, 2009:

1. sleeping in
2. power naps
3. going to bed early

Life is good when you have time to rest & refresh.

3 Beautiful Things 52/365

2009-04-22T23:32:00.004-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Wednesday April 22, 2009:

1. my favorite motherhood moment of the week: watching the boys make strides to achieve success at the goals they set for themselves

2. my favorite day in April: Free Cone Day at Ben & Jerry's (Although we didn't go this year, we had 2 last year! Come on, you would have, too...)
3. my new favorite words: "BRUINS WIN!"
Do I sound like a broken record? Well, bear with me because I think I'm going to say it alot in the upcoming weeks!

Life is good when you make favorites.

Good Old Fashioned Joy

2009-04-22T12:55:00.008-04:00

A while back, I was honored by two of my fellow bloggers with the distinguished "Lemonade Award". This award is presented to people who are thought to demonstrate great Attitude &/or Gratitude.

Thank you Shabby Girl & Tricia for sharing this honor with me. I have always savored the tangy mix of lemons & sugar in a refreshing glass of lemonade, but have never really thought of myself as having an uplifting spirit.

As I wrote in yesterday's post, I used to have a much more pessimistic view of life. But since becoming a mother, I have tried to wear my rose colored glasses along the way. Writing a daily "gratitude journal" to remind me about all of the little things I am thankful for has totally changed my perspective about the life I've been given.

So remember to share your gratitude throughout your journey. And when life hands you lemons, add water, then blend the bitterness of the world with a spoonful of sugar from your happy heart. Sip, smile & share!

When the tide turned

2009-04-21T22:05:00.004-04:00

Yesterday, as I was sitting at the cafe table inside the Mobil store sipping coffee, the boys stood at the door collecting donations for Little League. At the next table, two men commented about how well the kids were handling themselves. I told them how much my sons really enjoy "tag" week, where the players are sent out in the community to solicit donations for the program, and that it's the boys' way of saying "Thank You" to all of the coaches & volunteers.

We also talked about how much I value the programs our town offers the children in our area, which in turns gives kids something to do other than stir up trouble or experiment with the rampant drug activity here. That's when one man began to blame the trouble & drugs on the recent rise of "the black" population, saying that our area never had problems this bad until "those blacks got here".

I tried to sway the conversation away from this negativity by turning the conversation back to how my boys love sports. No matter what he said, I tried to put a positive spin on things. Eventually he back down and said "You must be an eternal optimist."

This is when it hit me that since I became a mother, my life is different and so is my outlook. I told him "Actually, until recently, I always saw my glass as half empty. And it wasn't until I had children that I learned that my attitude would affect they way they saw the world. So I decided that I needed to adjust my way of thinking, and put more emphasis on the positive aspect of a situation. I don't always succeed, but most times I stress the importance of making a constructive difference in the world."

Although I'm not a perpetual Pollyanna who wears rose-colored glasses, I do try hard to make the boys understand that they have a choice to be happy, to find ways to make a bad situation better, and to turn their misfortune into a learning experience.

I love sharing stories with Birdie, ones that pull at my heart strings because these stories somehow seem to strengthen our bond. Just recently I told him about the days I watched the Columbine & 9/11 horrors unfold, and how each tragedy affected my life.

As he listened, I could see the change in his eyes as he tried to comprehend the details. Later that evening, the news ran some footage from Columbine so we watched it together. He was stunned to see what happened inside that school and the terror that ensued.

Maybe this story was too intense for a ten year old, but it is my hope that it raised his level of compassion. I also hope that he learned that he must find a reason to move forward even when the road appears to end.

3 Beautiful Things 51/365

2009-04-21T21:43:00.003-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Tuesday April 21, 2009:

1. I never get tired of saying "Bruins win!"...
2. I never get tired of helping my children succeed
3. I never get tired of being the mother bear

Life is good with the endurance to keep going strong.

3 Beautiful Things 50/365

2009-04-20T21:57:00.000-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Monday April 20, 2009:

1. the sound of Moxie's silly cooing & itty bitty cry
2. the sound of the boys playing well together
3. the sound of my husband's car coming up the road

Life is good when you like what you hear.

3 Beautiful Things

2009-04-19T20:33:00.003-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Sunday April 19, 2009:

1. the weather is getting warmer & the sun feels hotter
2. the cremee stand is finally open... woo hoo
3. found the book for my new book club

Life is good with warm sunshine, cold ice cream, & a good book.

My Bucket List: 21-30

2009-04-18T23:35:00.002-04:00

Here is my third installment of The 101 Extraordinary Things I've Always Wanted To Do (Before I Die).

This list is merely my reminder of what I want to accomplish over the next 50 years, if I am blessed to live that long.

I'd be ecstatic to fulfill even just 20% of this entire list, because one just never knows what the future holds. But I'm gonna die trying. Wish me luck!

21. visit Sequoia National Park to see the magnificent Redwoods
22. fly in a glider over the Autumn foliage in Vermont
23. go windsurfing in Aruba
24. ski at some of the best resorts in Colorado
25. see a live performance by Cirque de Soliel
26. adopt a baby girl (once the boys are in high school)
27. write a children's book
28. take an art class & expand my creative horizons
29. have lunch with my mom, sisters & John Edwards (the medium)
30. learn how to golf with Hubby

3 Beautiful Things 48/365

2009-04-18T22:39:00.003-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Saturday April 18, 2009:

1. meeting old friends & making new ones on FaceBook
2. fun in the dugout at Nut's scrimmage against all the dads
3. my friendship with Carrie, who I miss desperately because I haven't been to a fun party since she left... Bunco anyone?

Life is good when you enjoy a few laughs with friends & neighbors.

GO BRUINS!

3 Beautiful Things 47/365

2009-04-17T20:40:00.002-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Friday April 17, 2009:

1. The boys completed their "Honey Do" lists without grumbling
2. The boys cooperated with my plans to green-up the T-Ball field
3. The boys didn't whine when I got them a smaller size treat

Life is good when the boys are easy to please.

3 Beautiful Things 46/365

2009-04-16T22:22:00.001-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Thursday April 16, 2009:

1. Kessel scores! woooo
2. Kessel's 2nd goal, a pretty empty-netter! woooo
3. Bruins win 4-2!

Life is good when you find the Achilles heal of your long-time nemesis.

A Life Letter to My Sons

2009-04-16T15:56:00.010-04:00

Thursday April 16, 2009

My dear sweet boys,

Not a day goes by that I don't thank God for giving me the privilege of being your mom. If I could stop the hands of time so I could keep you young, I would. In fact, I'd turn the clock back to the days that you were both babies, so I could relive every single day from Thursday October 28, 1998 until Monday September 10, 2001. Then keep rewinding over & over.

But I know that's impossible so I will try my best to guide you through this sometimes charming, sometimes catastrophic ride called Life.

I pray with every beat of heart that I will live long enough to hold my great-grandchildren in my arms as I sing them lullabies. However if for some reason I cannot be there, I want you to honor these keys to life:

always respect your fellow man, regardless of your differences
always be polite & courteous
reach out to those less fortunate than you
pay it forward
treat people the way you would want them to treat you

extend tokens of appreciation & affection
don't be afraid to express your true feelings
be honest, loyal & dependable
question authority without confrontation
your actions speak louder than words

Also please always remember that...

work is always secondary to family
having a passion for something is one of life's treasures
a higher education will enhance your future
you can only make a first impression once
punctuality shows respect
when you commit to something, follow it through to the very end

a tattoo is permanent
no President has ever had their ears or tongue pierced
drugs destroy brain cells
smoking is a filthy, cancerous habit
someone is always watching you
you must be willing to pay the consequences for your actions

it's okay to admit when you are wrong
an apology is more effective with sincerity
humility is more honorable than pride
words are very powerful weapons

the words "I love you" are not just a phrase; it's a feeling
a pet is a lifetime commitment
it's vital to give back to your community
laughter is the best medicine
it's okay to cry

a gentleman always holds or opens a door for others
women enjoy sincere compliments, not catcalls
sex and making love are two different things
you must ask your future in-laws for their blessing
it is noble to get down on one knee when proposing

romance is one of the keys to undying love
endearment is a valuable part of any relationship
communication will simplify your life
fidelity, trust & devotion strengthen your bond
it's never too late to start over

no matter where you go, I will be with you in spirit
you have made me very proud
the world needs positive role models, so be one
your home should always foster love & support

Although the path to your future may have been unclear, my goals for you were always decisive. I believe that I was put here to leave you with a legacy of love, hope and honor.

I have always loved you more than mere words could express. And if I should ever be asked what good I have done for mankind, I would confidently say that I was a good mother.

Hugs and Kisses,
Mom

Always Remember ~ My 100th post

2009-04-15T22:24:00.006-04:00

Today was a beautiful day.

I had the day off
so I did a little shopping
got myself a new bra and a pair of black jeans
went to the library
had a nice chat with an old friend
made new friends on FaceBook
baked cupcakes with Birdie for Mr. Flanagan's b'day

I've been thinking about what I wanted to post today
so I wandered around Blogger for inspiration.
I found it!
And it reminded me to always remember, so

I will always remember...

the black and white photos of my childhood,
especially the ones of my siblings lined up on the couch,
my brother holding the newborn baby (me),
all of them smiling so happily!
how freaking cute all of them were back then
the picture of them lined up in front of the tree
how few pictures there are of me growing up
the ones I remember most were taken at Nonie's house

Nonie's parlor with the blue-green furniture
DelVeneri's Bakery
the crusty bread baked in a wood-fired oven
the rare occasions we ate dinner at Nonie's *yum*
the lillie's of the valley & peonies on Meadow Street
the huge wedding picture of my parents

camping at Lake Dunmore with Dad's parents
my brother yelling "Irma!", which got him in trouble
the sweet smell of Grandpa's cigars
Uncle Johnny teaching how to bounce quarters on our beds
exploring upstairs at Aunt Tracy's house

peeing my pants in Sister Justin's 1st grade class
never wearing a seat belt as a kid
bouncing from seat to seat in the station wagon
the attic adventures in the old house on Spellman Terrace
stowing away in the bed of the pick-up while Dad drove to work
going to the 50 cent matinees every Saturday
sharing banana splits with my friend Lisa at Woolworth's

my first french kiss ~ too much tongue *yuck*
my first real boyfriend, Lenny
dumping him for the gorgeous guy who took my virginity
having my heart broken for the 1st time by that gg
senior year religion class with Father LaValley
the huge picture of me that hung in the window of Bartlett's Studio

the first time I got drunk
the first time I smoked weed
the first & only time I tried "coke"
my 1st apartment
bar hopping
moving away from the town I grew up in to escape a bad relationship

being in the best shape of my life
dating several guys at once to regain my confidence
the trip to Long Island with Janice & Dottie
getting set-up on a blind date with Hubby
my first concert with Hubby ~ Stevie Ray Vaughn & Joe Cocker
Hubby's wedding proposal 7 years later

our first home in Hinesburg
our wedding on the beach of St. Lucia
our honeymoon cruise through the Grenadine Islands
the birth of our 1st baby ~ a beautiful son
Birdie being rushed to the NICU 2 days after birth
the day Hubby told me I lost my nephew
telling Hubby that Birdie was going to be a big brother
the car accident on the morning I went into labor with Nut

Birdie's rendition of Santa Claus, sung to the BratPea
Nut's uncanny ability to always make me laugh
Hubby's unwavering devotion to his sons
how lucky I am for being the Queen among these Princes!

3 Beautiful Things 45/365

2009-04-15T21:53:00.001-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Wednesday April 15, 2009:

1. getting the boys to two separate practices on time
2. seeing their passion for baseball shine through
3. watching the coaches and kids build a team

Life is good when you witness your kids' athletic feats.

3 Beautiful Things 44/365

2009-04-14T22:56:00.003-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Tuesday April 14, 2009:

1. The Bruins have the best goaltender in the NHL, who played for the UVM Catamounts when they went to the Frozen Four tourney in '96: Tim Thomas #30

2. Phil Kessel, Bruins #81, was so sweet to my boys when we met face to face last September (a very humble, modest young man, who is also a cancer survivor)

3. The Bruins tallied 116 points this season and will face Hubby's beloved Canadiens in the playoffs. The tension is mounting in this little house...

Life is good when your team has a tremendous season. GO BRUINS!

3 Beautiful Things 43/365

2009-04-13T18:24:00.003-04:00

Here's my gratitude journal for Monday April 13, 2009:

1. getting a colossal kick in the pants from the bathroom scale this morning (and if my butt wasn't so big, it'd still hurt now...)

2. the fresh pico de gallo I get at market is good for you and tastes fabulous, too

3. I've consumed less than 1 ounce of chocolate in the last 4 days despite the 6.75 pounds of it visible and hidden throughout the house (However, that doesn't count the brownie Birdie forced me to inhale last night.)

Life is good when you get a wake-up call before it's too late.
Can you say "oink"?

3 Beautiful Things 42/365

2009-04-12T19:48:00.004-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Sunday April 12, 2009:

1. finding my old friend Lisa on Facebook
2. motivating Birdie to beef up his project without a battle
3. learning that Mom is coming for a visit in May

Life is good when you you have Sunday off... my first this year!

Oh, it's Easter? Well, it was just another day around here... Hope yours was fabulous!

3 Beautiful Things 41/365

2009-04-11T20:37:00.001-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Saturday April 11, 2009:

1. being born with all ten toes
2. being born with all ten fingers
3. being alive and well

Life is good when you consider the alternative.

3 Beautiful Things 40/365

2009-04-10T21:51:00.003-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Friday April 10, 2009:

1. lunch dates with friends
2. date night with Nut (pizza, a movie & slap jack)
3. Easter Sunday off... two years in a row!

Life is good with some relaxing down time.

My Bucket List: 11-20

2009-04-10T11:53:00.000-04:00

Here is my second installment of The 101 Extraordinary Things I've Always Wanted To Do (Before I Die).

There is no set priority so this list is merely my reminder of what I want to accomplish over the next 50 years. And yes, that means I'll still be at it when I'm a nonagenarian!

I think of myself as a pretty simple, down-to-earth person but I have an appetite for some high-priced adventure.

Who knows if I will ever be able to afford to do all 101 things, but I'm gonna die trying. So wish me luck.

11. para-sail over some exotic ocean resort
12. hydrazorb* down a mountain in New Zealand
13. see Old Faithful blow in Yellowstone Ntl Park
14. go on safari in Africa
15. becoming a therapy dog handler
16. bottle fed a litter of baby tiger cubs
17. snorkel throughout the Caribbean
18. build a house with Habitat for Humanity
19. get an eyebrow transplant
20. go to a Stanley Cup game, hopefully watching the Bruins

* for those of you who are not familiar with zorbing, I first saw it done on the reality show The Amazing Race Season 5. And after searching the web, I discovered that they now have zorbing in the United States (Tennesee of all places...)

3 Beautiful Things 39/365

2009-04-09T20:44:00.005-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Thursday April 9, 2009:

1. building great relationships every year with each of my sons' teachers
2. spending lots of quality time with the boys when they're at school
3. meeting the most clever, the most dynamic, the most imaginative teacher in the world: Shira Seigel, who was Nut's pre-school teacher

Life is good once you're old enough to enjoy going to school.

3 Beautiful Things 38/365

2009-04-08T22:06:00.003-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Wednesday April 8, 2009:

1. a quiet dinner with just the kids
2. a little fun with Birdie as we rehearsed his lines
3. the spontaneous bear hug from Nut

Life is good when the kids are happy.

Grace in Small Things: The View

2009-04-07T22:11:00.004-04:00

There are things in this world to which someone is drawn, mesmerized, enchanted, encouraged or transfixed. This is my tribute to a few of those things.

1. relaxing in the hammock on a sunny afternoon, book in hand, a gentle breeze aiding the swing, hearing the sound of the wind rustle the leaves above as the orioles call to each lovingly

2. watching the kittens playfully tease each other, pouncing, ambushing, and chasing, weaving in & out of every nook and hiding spot until exhaustion beckons them to a quiet retreat and a much needed cat nap

3. sitting on the cold bleachers, muscles tense, pulse racing as one boy steps on the mound and the other readies himself behind the mask to catch a sly curve ball, robbing the batter of his chance to shine

3 Beautiful Things 37/365

2009-04-07T21:29:00.002-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Tuesday April 7, 2009:

1. fresh pineapple
2. crusty garlic bread
3. homemade lasagna

Life is good with a belly full of delicious food

3 Beautiful Things 36/365

2009-04-06T23:07:00.004-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Monday April 6, 2009:

1. great conversation ... sometimes about nothing much
2. great neighbors ... not just mine*
3. great doctors ... I'm doin' my damnedest to raise two

Life is good when you can lean on someone.

* my BFF Dee has moved at least eight times in the last 25 years and everywhere she goes she has the uncanny ability to move right next door to some of the greatest people on earth.

Knock Knock

2009-04-06T01:03:00.000-04:00

Anyone who has a cat knows that if you don't hear them knocking, you could be in for some serious trouble...

3 Beautiful Things 35/365

2009-04-05T14:44:00.004-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Sunday April 5, 2009:

1. having Chinese take-out for dinner instead of cooking
2. that our sweet little stray trusts me enough to lay in my lap
3. medicine that will clear up Nut's lungs

Life is good when you don't have to cook on the weekends.

Grace in Small Things : Genesis

2009-04-05T06:20:00.002-04:00

My newest literary project: Grace in Small Things: A daily reminder to take notice of the positive things we tend to overlook.©
My list may be as long as 3 things or short as 1, depending on my mood...
Why? Grace in Small Things exists because I am choosing to wage the battle against embitterment and to recognize the grace that exists in small things.©
When? Grace in Small Things is a challenge for every day, because there's no time like the present, tomorrow never comes, and some other cliche about seizing the day. Oh, right: carpe diem.©
Who? Grace in Small Things was created by Schmutzie; Grace In Small Things: A Challenge For All Of Us. © Copyright Schmutzie 2008

Every day there is something that makes waking up in the morning so awesome, like

... the sound of a cat's purr
... the sound of the rain that lulls me back to sleep
... the sound of laughter, especially that of a child

3 Beautiful Things 34/365

2009-04-04T20:15:00.005-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Saturday April 4, 2009:

1. sleeping in until 8:20
2. The Boston Bruins clinching the top spot in the NHL Eastern Conference
3. the new doctor who treated Nut for another nasty lung ailment

Life is good on the weekend, especially when there's no schedule to follow...

Uh-oh, now I'm it...

2009-04-04T09:36:00.005-04:00

The Girl Who Wears My Shoes has tagged me! If you want to read something written with passion, you cannot miss her blog. You would be cheating yourself if you didn't spend at least an hour reading the history of Tricia's story.

According to the meme I'm supposed to tell you six random things about myself. If there was ever someone who lead(s) a boring life, it must be me because I've racked my brain for hours trying to jot down interesting "facts" and this is all I came up with:

I am the youngest of 6 children born to parents who divorced when I was an adult, a mere 15 years too late.
I was the only blond child in the family, thus I was teased constantly. The tease I remember most was that my siblings convinced my parents to bring me home after visiting my cage at the zoo.
My eyebrows are nearly invisible... not because they are blond, but because I have a tweezer addiction.
I never floss, despite threats from my hygienist that I will suffer periodontal disease or even contract cancer if I don't.
The corners of my mouth turn down thus when I am not smiling, people think that I'm in a crabby mood.
I have never owned a dog, but someday I will get one and train it to be a therapy dog.

Now for the rules:

* Link the person who tagged you. *Post the rules on your blog. *List six random things about yourself. * Tag six people at the end of your blog and link to them. *Let each person know they've been tagged and leave a comment on their blog. *Let the tagger know when your entry is up.

So from someone who always strives to challenge rules rather than follow them to the letter here are my 6 blog tags in no particular order:

Julie at 47 & Starting Over, Adlibby at Adlibby on the Loose, Mary Ellen at Adopting ME, Jennifer at Thursday Drive, Marie at Nourish, and Erin at Treasures Found.

3 Beautiful Things 33/365

2009-04-03T06:41:00.000-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Friday April 3, 2009:

1. no more trips to the mountain for awhile
2. having 4 days off instead of 2... (at least for the next 7 months)
3. coffee dates with my MOPS friends

Life is good when you spend less time at work and have more time to PLAY! I mean... to yourself. I mean... for housework. I mean... to gamble. No, no... to ramble. OMG, I need a nap!

(Please don't tell Hubby I said "play"! He doesn't know I've hired a cleaning lady, or that I drop off all the laundry at the 1-hour laundromat, or that I've asked the neighbors to do all my errands & shopping so I can spend more time on Blogger, I mean my journal, I mean my domestic godesstry. Promise you won't tell? He'll know soon enough when I've drained the savings to keep up the payments now that I'm not bringing in the 2nd paycheck... What time is it? I really need a margarita, then a nap! )

3 Beautiful Things 32/365

2009-04-02T20:16:00.000-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Thursday April 2, 2009:

1. a juicy steak perfectly grilled ~ make mine medium
2. not one but two great pizza joints in town
3. M&M's ~ plain (but peanut works if that's all there is)

Life is better after munching on something tasty...

3 Beautiful Things 31/365

2009-04-01T23:14:00.000-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Wednesday April 1, 2009:

1. making people laugh at my one-liners for April Fools' Day
2. getting a little more sleep than usual
3. clean drinking water

Life is good with simple delights...

3 Beautiful Things 30/365

2009-03-31T20:44:00.003-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Monday March 31, 2009:

1. that the boys didn't miss the bus, but only by the hair on my chinny chin chin... (where are my tweezer?)

2. that I noticed that I had forgot to close the garage door before driving 23 miles to work

3. that I didn't run out of gas after realizing my gas light was flashing (thus driving on fumes) some 8 miles away from the nearest gas station

Life is good when your guardian angel taps you on the shoulder...

3 Beautiful Things 29/365

2009-03-30T20:55:00.003-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Monday March 30, 2009:

1. hearing John Halligan's* story again
2. sharing a whole bunch of laughs with Birdie
3. waking up every day to kiss my sons

Life is good when you can laugh on the same day as you cry.

* If you have children in school, this story is a must read, so please take the time to visit this site. And watch the video, but have tissue ready.

What wrong with our trees?

2009-03-29T16:58:00.004-04:00

Another thing that repulses me about the human race: greed. People who spend money like it grows on trees or have no conscience about their blatant indulgences. People, like AIG execs, who take millions of dollars from the government bailout and call it a legitimate bonus. People who would trample over the body of another human being to gain the cheap big screen TV at Walmart's Black Friday stampede.

Then there's the woman trying to sue her husband for a $53,800* per week divorce settlement. This is what she claims she needs every week to sustain her current lifestyle: *US dollars

$30K +/- for housing (a Park Ave apartment & 3 houses in Sweden)
$8,000 for travel expenses
$4,500 for clothes
$1,500 for entertainment and restaurant expenses
$1,000 for hair and beauty treatments
$700 for limo service
$600 for flowers

She spends more on her limo service per week that we do on food for a month! Disgusting...

We are always so cognizant of what we spend because of how long it takes us to earn it. So I would be thrilled to wake up one morning and NEVER have to worry money. It would be nice to be able to afford the things we need (or want) without having to scrimp & skimp.

Like travel, for example. We wanted to stay overnight in Boston when we took the boys to see the Bruins but didn't want to spend the money on a hotel room. I mean, motel room. [there is a difference... we can only afford motels, not hotels.] When we went to Boston in November, I searched Hotwire.com for deals, and finally got a room at the Radisson for $46/night, which was 58% off the rack rate of $109. I was stoked.

There's nothing I love more than a nabbing a big bargain. Especially when I'm saving my own hard earned dough.

3 Beautiful Things 28/365

2009-03-29T16:36:00.003-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Sunday March 29, 2009:

1. hot meals ~ preferably prepared by someone else!
2. potatoes ~ french fried, baked or mashed
3. sweets ~ cake, pie, or chocolates

Life is good with a full belly...

3 Beautiful Things 27/365

2009-03-28T12:40:00.002-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Saturday March 28, 2009:

1. my eyesight ~ I don't want to miss a thing
2. my hindsight ~ I've actually learned things from my mistakes
3. my foresight ~ it gets strong with age, like wisdom

Life is good when you look and see

3 Beautiful Things 26/365

2009-03-27T10:48:00.001-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Friday March 27, 2009:

1. my in-laws (no joke... I adore them!)
2. my hubby is so grounded b/c of how he was raised
3. my kids love, cherish & adore their grandparents, who we spend lots of time with making memories

Life is good when you have a great support system

3 Beautiful Things 25/365

2009-03-26T21:30:00.003-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Thursday March 26, 2009:

1. the friends I've had for years
2. the friends my kids will have for years
3. the friends who come & go

Life is good with a friend to lean on...

Do the Right Thing

2009-03-25T23:11:00.003-04:00

One thing I absolutely detest is cowardice. When people stand back and watch a horrific event unfold without blinking an eye, or walk away pretending they didn't notice someone needing help...

How can you live with yourself, how can you look in the mirror and be proud of the face staring back at you when you've let someone suffer? What if it was your mother, your spouse, your child, your grandfather? Could you, would you casually walk away knowing that they were in jeopardy? Of course not.

Yet everyday I see (we all see) this kind of opportunity ignored. Is it because we are too selfish, too busy, too hurried, too timid, too scared, too narcissistic? What excuse could you use to justify watching someone suffer pain or injustice?

I have tried to teach my children the importance of compassion & humanitarianism. When they see someone fall on the ski slope, they stop to make sure that the person is alright, help them gather their equipment and offer them help to their feet. When they see someone cry, they offer empathy. When they see someone hungry, they share their snack. It's the right thing to do.

Don't miss out on your chance to be a hero, to make a difference in someone's life. Even if no one else is willing to help, be the one who is.

[Note: disable music player at page end before playing this song...]

He Aint Heavy, He's My Brother - Hollies

3 Beautiful Things 24/365

2009-03-25T16:56:00.004-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Wednesday March 25, 2009:

1. light bulbs
2. flashlights
3. candles

Life is better with illumination... (me? afraid of the dark? Why do you ask?)

p.s.
Happy Birthday, Heather

My Bucket List: 1-10

2009-03-24T10:41:00.006-04:00

As the years sneak up on me, I keeping thinking about my "to do" list. You could say it's my own proverbial "Bucket List" of places and events that I hope to savor before I die.

So today is my first installment of The 101 Extraordinary Things I've Always Wanted To Do. There is no set priority but I want to write them all down so I won't forget because, God knows, I will forget...

I think of myself as a pretty simple, down-to-earth person but I have always had champagne taste and a beer budget. Yet, if I play my cards right, I can foresee a promising future. Wish me luck.

I pray with all my heart that some of these might become reality:

1. go to New York City to see a Broadway show, an off-Broadway play and David Letterman
2. go to Alaska to see the Northern Lights, wild polar bears, and part of the Iditarod race
3. bungee jump over a deep body of clear blue water
4. ride horseback on a gorgeous tropical beach
5. become a sexy 'n sassy ballroom dancer
6. treat myself to a luxurious 4 star spa vacation
7. go to the Academy Awards and a couple of Oscar parties, too
8. skydive (tandem! not solo... I'm not crazy!)
9. become a perpetually perfect size 10* petite
10. go on a mini girl-time getaway with DeeDee on my 50th, 60th & 70th birthday

* I really wanted to say 6 but until I can afford to hire Jillian Michaels to live with us, I'll stick to a more realistic goal...

3 Beautiful Things 23/365

2009-03-24T08:26:00.002-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Tuesday March 24, 2009:

1. I have never suffered a broken bone (not counting my nose...)

2. I had successful lasik surgery to correct my vision

3. I enjoyed 2 amazing pregnancies with only sparse morning sickness

Life is great when you feel good...

3 Beautiful Things 22/365

2009-03-23T02:51:00.002-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Monday March 23, 2009:

1. a dedicated husband who helps with the child-rearing and all of the housework

2. a confident husband who is patient & level headed

3. a dependable husband who is loyal & honest

Life is more fun when you share it with people you love...

How good I've got it...

2009-03-22T10:11:00.003-04:00

This morning I watched a remarkable segment on the Today show about Rebecca Alexander, 30, who has a debilitating disease called Usher Syndrome type III.

Stories like Rebecca's truly make me appreciate how good I've got it, how lucky I am to have what I have, and how much I forget to thank God for all that I am...

From this day forward, I will continue to be thankful for all of my senses, my good health and all of my blessings. This story just makes me more determined to touch the lives of others who are less fortunate than me.

One thing Rebecca said is that she follows a mantra of Live for today, live in the moment, don't take a moment for granted... Such sage advice from a courageous, positive, hopeful young woman.

3 Beautiful Things 21/365

2009-03-22T09:42:00.001-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for March 22, 2009:

1. weekends off

2. flexible schedules

3. fringe benefits

Life is good when you do what you like and like what you do...

3 Beautiful Things 20/365

2009-03-21T09:35:00.004-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Saturday March 21, 2009:

1. gift cards

2. coupons

3. markdowns

Life is better when you come out with change...

The Smart (a.k.a. Frugal) Shopper

2009-03-20T16:52:00.000-04:00

I never buy anything, and I mean anything, unless I know I'm getting the best price, have a coupon, or it's on sale.

This morning I had to go to the grocery store and lately I've been shopping at Price Chopper because they are running a program called "Fuel Advantage". Normally I just go through their flyer and buy items that are truly on sale, or items I can use a double coupon for.

But this FA program is hard to resist in this unstable economy. For every $50 you spend, they discount every gallon of gasoline you buy at the Sunoco station by 10 cents. Last week I only paid $1.43/gallon [yet the lady beside me only paid 73 cents]. My goal is to get down to $1 off per gallon, which means I'll have to buy $379 in groceries over the next 2 months. No prob...

Today my bill came to $146.08 but I only paid $92.96 after coupons and "card" savings. Plus I got 2 store coupons worth $2 each to use on my next order and $6.00 in other coupons for things I actually use. Bonus!

aaaaaah, now I can tip the stylist a little extra today then buy myself a new pair of jeans.

3 Beautiful Things 19/365

2009-03-20T13:18:00.000-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Friday March 20, 2009:

1. a sunny first day of Spring

2. getting my haircut without paying

3. having the stylist wash my hair & massage my scalp

Life is good...

Humbled

2009-03-19T20:37:00.003-04:00

If you follow my blog, you know that I took on a 2nd part-time job at a ski resort for the winter. Well tomorrow is the first day of Spring and because the mountains are losing their snow fast, my days there are numbered.

Last Monday when I got to work, my manager told me that there was a shakedown in the works and that only those who are pulling their weight would be rewarded. Nobody wants to hear that their job is in jeopardy, so I was a bit unnerved by the news. She must have noticed the look on my face and quickly assured me that I was safe. [phew!] She went on to say that my productivity was high, my accuracy was solid and my customer service was strong.

Then today I got nearly the same lay-off warning from the department supervisor. This man is not so subtle when he delivers information [or critiques], nor is he generous with praise. Yet he floored me when he told me that I was doing a great job and how impressed he was by my overall performance. He also said that he went to the big boss about whose hours should be cut once the downsizing starts. Much to my surprise, he wants me to be the last one standing, even though my other coworker has been there 2 years longer than me.

I was (and am) humbled by these compliments. There is nothing more motivating than a genuine pat on the back. Well, that is, nothing other than a hefty bonus and a raise. Still, it felt good.

3 Beautiful Things 18/365

2009-03-19T06:13:00.001-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Thursday March 19, 2009:

1. Soap

2. Shampoo

3. Deodorant

'nuff said...

Every day we wake to live another day on this planet, we must find at least 3 things to be grateful for.

Cute as babies; Evil as adults

2009-03-18T18:56:00.000-04:00

For all of you cat owners... This is genius!
p.s. notice all the toys, not to mention the destruction.

Who wears the pants in a cat family?

Thanks to Delaney55 for sharing a piece of this amusing artwork. It sure felt good to laugh!

Coincidentally, Dork was curled up by the monitor purring away as I watched this. I think she's in on the gig... From now on, I'm sleeping with one eye open.

3 Beautiful Things 17/365

2009-03-18T07:02:00.001-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Wednesday March 18, 2009:

1. after three missed school days, lots of rest, numerous doses of Tylenol and Advil, plus 6 tsp of Azithromycin, our little Nut is finally feeling better!

2. a flock of "Orange Bellies" (a.k.a. robins) grazing in the yard.

3. the Open Doors after-school program, which offers Birdie some fun 'n games.

Every day we wake up to enjoy another day on this planet, we must find 3 things to be thankful for. Care to share yours here with me?

Top o' the mornin' to yee

2009-03-17T08:58:00.004-04:00

In honor of my Irish roots, I wanted to share some of the fascinating Irish folklore widely preached and believed by Irishmen & leprechauns:

An Irish birthday tradition is to lift the birthday person upside down and give his head a few gentle bumps on the floor for good luck. The number of bumps should correspond to the person's age plus one.

If a bird flew into a house, it was forewarning of impending death.

It was unlucky to knit at night until you were certain the sheep were asleep.

On Epiphany, January 6, the tail of a herring was rubbed across the eyes of children to protect them from disease for the rest of the year.

When sailing upon the any waters, coins dropped overboard are believed to cause a tumultuous storm.

It is considered unlucky to build an extension of one's house from the rear.

One should never look a cat in the eye who has just wiped its face with its paw - whoever the cat looked at would be the first in the household to die.

The old Irish saying "God between us and all harm" was said upon hearing the crow of a rooster to prevent betrayal.

Irish mothers never say how cute a baby is because it may bring down the evil eye upon the child.

It is an Irish wedding tradition for the Groom to give his Bride a coin after they exchange rings as a symbol of prosperity.

An iron horseshoe should be hung over the front door to ward off evil & despair.

As I conclude this post, I leave you with this blessing:

May you be poor in misfortune, rich in blessings, slow to make enemies, quick to make friends. But rich or poor, quick or slow, may you know nothing but happiness from this day forward.

Have a fabulous St. Patrick's Day.

3 Beautiful Things 16/365

2009-03-17T08:39:00.003-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Tuesday March 17, 2009:

1. no potato famine here in the United States

2. 4 leaf clovers in every patch of grass

3. "Angela's Ashes" by Frank McCourt (a lesson in survival and gratitude)

Every day we wake up to spend another day on this planet, we must find 3 things we are thankful for. Please share yours here with me...

Helping Hands: Mission 1 completed

2009-03-16T20:29:00.000-04:00

Yesterday we wrapped up our first mission of Operation Helping Hands. We started on Valentine's Day and decided we would run it for only 30 days. This project was a tremendous success and we are excited to formulate our next enterprise. Meanwhile mission accomplished.

Here is a synopsis of our progress:
Week 1: 745 units / $45.06
Week 2: 993 units / $59.58
Week 3: 1,114 units / $64.20
Week 4: 431 units / $25.86

In the end, we exceeded our goal of 3,000 units by 9.17% or 275 units. Once redeemed, the value of all of these returnables amounted to $194.70. (one week we tipped the teenager at the redemption center 3 bucks...he deserved it!) We threw in an extra $5.30 to make our total an even $200.00. We are excited to present the money to Gramma Kaye and her family.

Meanwhile, our Project Trash to Cash has begun and we are hoping to exceed our goal [$175.00] for this mission, too.

Wish us luck...

3 Beautiful Things 15/365

2009-03-16T13:57:00.000-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Monday March 15, 2009:

1. our new Bruins hats that we got at the game on Saturday

2. meeting new people and making new friends

3. hanging laundry outside to dry in the gentle breeze & brilliant sunshine

Every day we wake up to spend another day on this planet, we must find 3 things to be thankful for. Please share yours here with me...

A chance encounter

2009-03-15T08:44:00.004-04:00

If you've read my profile, I write how one of my favorite things in life is to connect with people. Blogging has allowed me to express myself and share my experiences with friends near & far that I do not get a chance to see often. It has also given me the opportunity to create bonds with people in cyberspace who either share common interests with me or who bring to the table something that I find fascinating.

Some of the sites that I love to read convey humor and whimsy. It takes a special person to make someone laugh and writing a comical post is even harder to do. But there are many bloggers out there that do this with finesse.

I do not know how I stumbled onto (or into) some of these sites. Nevertheless something held my interest and I stayed long enough to get hooked. One of my most favorite sites is Adopting ME.

There was something inexplicable about what Mary Ellen wrote that day. I've followed her ever since. Sometimes she makes me laugh so hard that tears well in my eyes and my sides hurt, then other days she has me wishing I could jump through the screen to give her a hug.

I knew that Mary Ellen lives in New England and that she loves the Bruins as much as I do. Then I read that she was going to be in the same place on the same day at the same time as me. It's not everyday that bloggers get to meet face to face. I was ecstatic!

Yesterday we took the boys to Boston to see the Bruins (a christmas gift from Santa, planned way back in September). Mary Ellen was going to the same game. I told the kids and hubby that I hoped we could find each other and meet, but with a sold-out crowd of over 15,00 people in the same building, I knew the chances were slim. Since I didn't know what section she was sitting in, there was no way I could find her, but I did tell her where we'd be.

The game ended with the score Bruins 2 Isles 1. We stayed behind to watch as they announced the games 3 stars (Phil Kessel, who is Nut's favorite Bruins, got the 1st star) then we headed to the car for the 4+ hour ride home. But just as we walked out of our section, Mary Ellen found me!

Mary Ellen is a gem and I believe that we met for a reason. I hope this is just the first encounter of many more...

3 Beautiful things 14/365

2009-03-15T08:43:00.001-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Sunday March 15, 2009:

1. enjoying a trip to the TD Banknorth Garden in Boston to watch our beloved Bruins play a rousing game of hockey. (Thanks, Santa!)

2. hearing the horn blow and the music blast after Phil Kessel, Marc Savard and the rest of the Bruins score. woooooo!

3. dancing in the aisles when the Bruins win!

Everyday that we wake up to live another moment on this planet, we must find 3 things to be thankful for. Share yours with me now...

3 Beautiful Things 13/365

2009-03-14T15:33:00.000-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Saturday March 14, 2009:

1. having the means to put three complete meals on our table everyday and occasionally treat ourselves to dinner out.

2. opening the windows to let the fresh air seep into the house that has been closed too long against the chill of winter.

3. owning enough land to play football or baseball in the yard, take strolls in the backwoods and grow some of our own vegetables.

Every day we wake up to spend another day on this planet, we must find at least 3 things to be grateful for. Share yours here with me...

3 Beautiful Things 12/365

2009-03-13T06:58:00.000-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Friday March 13, 2009:

1. having no superstitions.

2. seeing the sap buckets hanging from all of the maple trees for miles.

3. owning a reliable washer & dryer so we can have clean laundry at a moment's notice

Every day we wake up to live another moment on this planet, we must find 3 things to be thankful for. Take a minute to share yours with me now...

Are you there God? It's me, Lisa... Chapter 1

2009-03-12T23:32:00.004-04:00

Hi there,
I know we don't talk much but this time I really need a friend. I hope you're listening because I don't know what to do.

You see things get a little tempestuous around here and sometimes, no matter what we do, nothing works to calm the storm. We've tried being patient, talking calmly, trying to reason... that made us look soft. We've tried tough love, being extra firm, and taking the no-nonsense approach... that made us look mean. We've tried loss of privileges, various consequences, even bold threats... that was a battle of the wills.

So we live day to day bracing ourselves for another wave, hoping the damn won't break. Some days it's hard to find the strength to keep building. And, as time goes on, the struggle gets more & more intense and our strength less & less resilient.

I know I've asked before, but can you please help him understand our goals and why we set boundaries & limits. There is acrimony in his voice when he talks, especially to the little bird, so communication is difficult. This often causes friction and discord, which ends up making us all miserable.

So, God, if you can hear me, please send an angel...

3 Beautiful Things 11/365

2009-03-12T10:44:00.005-04:00

Here's my gratitude journal for Thursday March 12, 2009:

1. seeing the school bus rumble down the street to pick-up or drop off the kids

2. hearing the kids tell me they aced their math quiz

3. having great teachers every year who love their job and dedicate enormous time & energy to inspire their students to be the best they can be. Hats off and kudos to my son's 5th grade teacher, Mr. Flanagan, who is one in a zillion!

Every day we wake up to enjoy another day on this earth, we must find 3 things to be thankful for. I urge you to share yours here with me...

Beautiful blond with a heart of gold

2009-03-11T18:58:00.007-04:00

I know what you're thinking... I'm on on the wrong website. I clicked into Match.com accidentally and am trying to place an ad for my dream guy. Uh, nope... I'm married to a dream guy so no need for matchmakers.

This would, however, be a great header or a good opening line for an ad for my youngest son. He was blessed with a head of sunny blond hair and has an enormous heart of gold, which grows bigger & bigger everyday.

This child is my cuddlebug and because we have somewhat opposite temperaments, we mesh very well. I enjoy every minute we spend together and he always manages to tickle my funny bone. Even if the words alone are not comical, the way he delivers the words often is. Typically "out of the mouth of babes" kind of things. This is why I call this blond blue-eyed angel "my crazy Nut".

He is as sweet as honey and incredibly kindhearted. I will not bore you with the countless deeds he's done to prove this but I do want to share a couple of things....

The other day as I was opening the fridge, I looked up to see the star Nut had made in last year in first grade. The teacher asked all of the children to write down one thing they wished for on a star. This is what Nut wrote on his star: "I will help people in trouble."

My heart fluttered the first time I read it and every time since. And the truth is I have no doubt that Nut will someday be someone's hero.

He will be a knight in shining armor. He will slay all Boogie Men. He will, as the dictionary describes, be a person noted for feats of courage or nobility of purpose, especially one who has risked or sacrificed his life for others.

Then the other day, as we were going to the doctor's office, we saw an old man shoveling the newly fallen snow. There wasn't much and it was fairly light, but the snowplow had pushed a menacing pile at the end of his driveway.

When I noticed the man, I had thought to myself "Gee, if I didn't have to be somewhere in 5 minutes, I'd stop to help him." Just as I finished that thought, Nut had spotted the man and said sadly "Oooooh, I wish we could stop and help that man!"

So you see, he really does have a heart of gold. And he genuinely wants to help people in trouble!

3 Beautiful Things

2009-03-11T18:06:00.004-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Wednesday March 11, 2009:

1. Kisses blown to me from the sweetest second grader in the world.

2. Staying home from work [and still getting paid] to care for my sick children.

3. Doing the "Jumble" in the newspaper and getting all of the words correctly unscrambled.

Every day we wake up to live another day here on earth, we must find 3 things to be thankful for. I urge you to share yours here with me...

Live for today

2009-03-10T12:12:00.001-04:00

Don't let time slip away, like sand through your fingers.

Leave nothing unspoken.

Hug them closer, tighter. Kiss them longer, sweeter.

Inhale the scent of their hair, their skin, their being.

Memorize the beauty of their soul, the sound of their voice, the feel of their skin, the sparkle in their eyes.

It may be the last memory you have

So do it today, right now, before it's too late. Tell someone you love that you love them back.

Jo Dee Messina

3 Beautiful things 9/365

2009-03-10T10:52:00.000-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Tuesday March 10, 2009:

1. The tender memories I have of Michael ; caressing his silky blond curls, kissing his soft handsome face, looking into his gorgeous aquamarine eyes, inhaling the musky scent of his cologne, telling him that I would always be there for him no matter what. Dear God, I miss him!

2. The pleasures of motherhood; hugging, holding, sharing & molding.

3. Songs that stoke the fire of warm memories and gently touch my heart.

Everyday we wake up to live another day on this blessed earth, we must find three things to be thankful for. I urge you to share yours here with me....

Project Trash to Cash

2009-03-09T13:45:00.001-04:00

The other day as my son & I were driving to the redemption center, he was looking out the window & saw discarded cans along the roadside. He calculated his "findings" to amount to about 60 cents by the time we got there.

That conversation sparked an idea! I told him we should begin a new mission once our current "Helping Hands" project is complete. The focus of the new project will be greening up the roadsides and seeing how much money we can "find" in the process. We plotted & planned what we would do, what our goal would be, and what we would do with the "funds".

Here is the recap of what we came up with:

The Mission:
Project Trash to Cash

The Action:
collect returnables from roadside, playgrounds, fields, parks, waterways & open areas (even trash cans!) for one whole year.

The Goal:
pick up at least two cans each day, or 14 cans each week; 56 cans between the four of us.

The Proceeds:
if we all reach our daily goal, we should net $174.72. We agreed that we would split the money 50/50 with a charity then put our half in our annual vacation fund.

The Greater Good:
greening up & recycling, plus supporting a charity & investing in the future.

My father-in-law does a similar thing every year: he collects discarded coins and puts them in a jar. At the end of the year, he counts, rolls, and redeems it. After he records the total in his ledger, he takes his wife out to lunch. He calls his project "Found Money".

Beautiful Things 8/365

2009-03-09T10:21:00.002-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Monday March 9, 2009:

1. Waking up every morning in a warm comfortable home with a good roof over our heads, running water, indoor plumbing, and the magic of electricity.

2. Friends near & far, past & present, human & furry, here & in cyberspace.

3. Having a secure job, despite the woeful wage.

Every day we wake up to spend another day on this earth, we must find 3 things to be thankful for. I urge you to take a minute to share yours here with me.

3 Beautiful Things 7/365

2009-03-08T11:01:00.000-04:00

Here is my gratitude journal for Sunday March 8, 2009:

1. my health... no broken bones on the very icy ski slopes* yesterday

2. teaching my children life lessons

3. the sweet sound of the words "Bruins win!"

Every time we wake up to live another day here on earth, we need to find at least 3 things to be thankful for. Please share yours with me...

And can I ask a favor of you: I implore all of you to please please pretty pretty please pray for a mammoth snowfall on top of Smuggs for me.

Are you green enough?

2009-03-07T20:48:00.001-05:00

My son and I are doing a bottle drive to raise money for a local family. This got me thinking about how bottle collections and recycling campaigns impact our environment. So I did some research and found the info listed below on Wikipedia re: container-deposit legislation.

I was stunned to learn how few states in the US follow this "green" legislation. Only 11 out of 50, which amounts to a mere 22%! I wonder what the other 39 states look like? Their landfills must be monumental. I am so glad we live in a "green" state (aptly nicknamed the "Green Mountain" State).

Here are just a few points I found fascinating, so I thought I'd bring them more to the forefront. But before you read this, I urge you to please recycle, reduce & reuse.

US states with container deposits:
California
Connecticut
Delaware
Hawaii
Iowa
Maine
Massachusetts
Michigan
New York
Oregon
Vermont

Canada
Many provinces have deposit refunds in place for alcoholic & non-alcoholic beverage containers. Deposits range from 5 to 40 cents per unit.

Ontario's system of deposit refund for beer bottles has a near 100% return rate. In 1997 the legislation added a refund for wine & spirits as well.

Sweden
In Sweden, there are deposit values on nearly all consumption-ready containers. The return rate for aluminum and PET containers is 86%; for the two types of bottles the rate is 99% and 90% respectively.

Norway
The selling of aluminum beverage cans in Norway was forbidden up until the end of the 20th century. Today Norway has various container deposits. In 2005, 93% of all recyclable bottles and 80% of the drink cans were returned and recycled. This amounted to approximately 243 million containers and 280 million NOK in deposits.

One Man's Treasure... Operation Helping Hands Part II

2009-03-07T13:44:00.000-05:00

For those of you who might not understand this post, you first must read my 3/6/09 post about "helping hands".

To recap, there was a fire in our town which destroyed the two-family home of one of our school's bus driver, "Gramma Kaye". Kaye's daughter, son-in-law and 2 grandchildren lived in an apartment above the garage. Her granddaughter is in my son's 5th grade class.

I sent out various e-mails to 16 parents of 5th graders as well as the two principals, the four 5th grade teachers, the PTO, & the student council advisor asking if they would help me network to organize a student-run fund drive for this family. The school basically told me that they had already done what they felt was appropriate and student involvement was unnecessary.

Now I just wanted to follow-up about a comment written on my last post. My friend Heather, who is also a bus driver at our school, wrote:

"...the school had done some sort of pull together for Kaye right after it happened (I believe that effort was inside...teachers and staff). ...there were people rallying together on Kaye's behalf too, moms and such doing group efforts and individual things." (see full comment on yesterday's post)

Here is my reply:

When I spoke to Mrs. McA, she said that the 5th grade teachers had pooled together @ $400. As we both know, the other staff also collected goods (& cash, I think) during the week after the fire, which is fabulous. Yet I still believe that the middle school students should have done something, too, as a gesture of "school community", [which is constantly preached everyday in every classroom]. This would've been a perfect opportunity to teach these young people a valuable lesson about being good Samaritans.

Then, after the article in the newspaper ran on Monday, people starting randomly dropping items off at the school for Kaye. However, I have heard that most of the items that were donated & collected were useless (dare I say) junk. What makes that worse is that Kaye and her family were left with the task of disposing of it, too.

On top of all that, the home that they are temporarily living in now was in deplorable condition when they moved in. The previous tenant had lived there with 5 dogs and the house was a filthy mess. All of the flooring and carpet needed to be ripped out to the sub-floor, the walls were smeared with dirt (from the dogs) and the appliances were gross. There was so much to be done to make living there comfortable, and because they were so emotionally fragile they were overwhelmed by everything.

To further complicate matters, they all had to deal with losing their homes and 90% of their belongings, not to mention the guilt about how the fire started. Then they had to start making phone calls to the insurance company, the bank, the utility companies, and various agencies in order to start the rebuilding process. Anyone in this stressful situation would not want a multitude of "garage-sale leftover" to have to sort through, store, wash, and dispose of.

Honestly the best thing for this family's peace of mind would have been a hefty check and offers of manpower, not junk. So I wanted to rally people to coordinate a fundraiser for them. Kaye & Katina do not need THINGS at this point; they need MONEY. This became emphatically clear once I did get a chance to speak with Kaye. She sadly admitted that she forgot to change the insurance once the apartment was built. Therefore her daughter's home was uninsured, which means none of their loss can be recouped.

Do not misunderstand me; I think it was fantastic that people wanted to help replace "things" that the family lost. But no one can be sure what they really needed unless there was a list circulated (which there wasn't). So think about it: wouldn't you be overwhelmed, too, if everyone donated towels & sheets but little else?"

Because so many people donated things, the family was embarrassed to begrudge anything. Among the donations were sweat stained pillows and previously worn bras & panties.

My point is that people had their hearts in the right place, but to rebuild the contents of your ENTIRE house, money and manpower were much more appropriate "gifts". My opinion, of course...

I hope no one will take offense with my ranting.... I also hope that I never have to face the consequences of such a devastating event.

Now, let's all count our blessings.

3 Beautiful Things 6/365

2009-03-07T07:03:00.001-05:00

Everyday I will list three things that inspire, enhance or embellish my world. I encourage you to share yours with me.

Meanwhile this is my gratitude journal for Saturday march 7, 2009:

1. Daylight Savings Time ... it'll be lighter longer! whooo hooo

2. Gas prices below $2.00/gallon. I can now get a full tank for less than $25, rather than 1/4 tank

3. Hubby doing the dishes every night... He also does some cooking, cleaning, and 43 other helpful domestic duties. He also gets my vote for Father of the Year.

Operation Helping Hands, Part I

2009-03-06T01:07:00.001-05:00

Back in January I wrote two different posts about reaching out which related to a recent tragedy in our community. (If you have a minute, look back at these links so you can understand what motivated me.) Unfortunately my attempt to rally other parents in my sons school was a bust. So, too, was my outreach to the school's principal & administration. Although I did hear from 4 parents (out of 16), only one has jumped on the bandwagon. Nevertheless, I was not discouraged. So I coordinated a simple project to do with my son LJ to raise money for this family.

First, I spread the word to my coworkers at the ski resort about my plan to launch a bottle drive. Then one of them suggested I talk to the resort's maintenance coordinator. She said that he could hook me up with a boatload of returnables every week. Boy was she right! Since contacting Paul, we have collected over 2750 bottles which, at 6 cents apiece, has netted us over $165.00 so far. Our goal was 3000 cans, and when we wrap it up in a couple of weeks we will certainly have exceeded that goal, likely by 900+ bottles.

This has been an amazing project and one that has really opened our hearts to the needs of others. Ironically, my other son's class has embarked on a "kindness" mission, whereas the children are encouraged to perform random acts of kindness throughout their daily interactions. And just recently, I began another phenomenal project called Blessed Bucks. This type of goodwill is so up my alley. So thanks, Erin, for the inspiration! I cannot wait to tell the kids about it and get them in on the act, too.

Life is good when you share yourself with others... Pass it on!

3 Beautiful Things 5/365

2009-03-06T00:12:00.003-05:00

Everyday I will post three beautiful things that inspire, embellish and/or enhance my world. I encourage you to share yours with me.

Meanwhile this is my gratitude journal for Friday March 6, 2009:

1. Friday date nights... with the boys. My hubby takes one son & I take the other out for a one-on-one date. Anything goes as long as it's pure quality time.

2. The radiant heat from the wood stove that penetrates even the most numbing chill.

3. Fresh kettle popped buttered popcorn with a hefty sprinkle of parmesan cheese & a dash of salt.